Does Internet Dating Work?
What's the Number One Question that Everyone Asks About CyberDating?
Everyone -- and that included YOU! -- wants to know: "Does Internet Dating Work?"
Well, I KNOW it works, and in the best possible way, because I met my husband Drew on Match.com in May 1998. And I know others who have met their True Love that way, too. (I'm collecting stories of Internet True Romance, if you know of a couple that met that way -- email me at Kathryn@Find-A-Sweetheart.com and tell me all about it!)
But what about for you? Will it work for YOU???
No one wants to get their hopes up and then be disappointed, do they? If this is "not going to work," then why try?
Sounds like a good reason not to do anything, doesn't it? Because even though CyberDating most definitely worked for me, I can't guarantee that it will "work" for you. Too many variables, the biggest of which is you -- your own fears and how far you are willing to go.
Let's look at this question from a more logical place.
What have you been doing, other than posting on an Internet Dating site, about finding a mate? And how is that working for you?
Either you have been doing something (singles events, let's say, or trying to let others know that you are interested) or you have been doing nothing. "Something" is more likely to have results than "nothing," but neither have "worked" in that you haven't gotten a mate yet, or you wouldn't be asking the question "Does Internet dating work?"
So let's redefine "work." What Internet dating does better than any other method I know is that it exposes you to a very large group of other singles and helps you sort them into the likeliest category for potential partnerhood with you. How well does "doing nothing" compare with that? For that matter, how well does "doing something" other than Internet dating compare?
I've had clients who loudly complain that Internet dating is not working for them, when they have, at the same time, been carrying on several correspondences with possible mate candidates and have met and screened several others, all in a few weeks' time. How can they say that Internet dating does not work???
I can't answer the question "Does Internet dating work?" ANY other way than with a resounding "YES!!!" It works by getting you the best possible exposure to the most potential partners.
Now what you DO with that exposure is up to you -- that's where your "work" comes in. Many, many factors come into play -- your relative receptiveness to a new relationship, the kind of barriers you may put in the way, your skills or the lack of them in presenting yourself and relating to other. All those and more are part of the "work" that needs to happen to transform potential mates into actual ones.
And that's YOUR "work" -- so the question becomes "Can I do the work that needs to happen to find a mate and develop a lasting relationship?"
That's the RIGHT question. It's a big one, and if you have been long frustrated in your efforts, maybe getting a Romance Coach could help.
Getting a Romance Coach is unlikely to make your situation worse. And who knows? It just might work!
Kathryn Lord © 2004 All Rights Reserved
About The Author
Kathryn Lord, Romance Coach
Helping singles find someone wonderful!
eBk: "Find A Sweetheart Soon! Your Love Trip Planner for Women"
4870 Oak Ridge Road, Vicksburg, MS 39183 / Ph. 601-619-0030
Stay current with my complimentary enewsletter *eMAIL to eMATE*
Subscribe at http://find-a-sweetheart.com/newsletter.html
www.Find-A-Sweetheart.com / Kathryn@Find-A-Sweetheart.com
WNQA Articles:
Learn the Truth About Weight Loss and Getting Great Abs
Debunking The Ab MythAb training has been done to death but it's time
to take another look. Why? Because people are still
training their abs wrong so all that ab training
information must not be doing the job.
The Early Signs And Symptoms Of Pregnancy
While each woman will exhibit different symptoms when she's pregnant, the one that is most important is a menstrual cycle that's been missed or delayed It's important that you understand the various possible symptoms of pregnancy, since most of these symptoms could also be a sign of something else
New Research Supports the Effectiveness of Using Short-Term Fasting for Weight Loss
New Scientific research supports the theories behind diet book Eat Stop Eat.
Weight Loss? No Problem!
Common academic knowledge shows us that persons who are fat possess a more likely chance of being burdened with certain health problems that might lead to their early deaths; so a lot of effort should be made towards weight loss for anyone that's serious about living.
Guide To Black Dating Online
Black dating online is for African descent people who want to meet someone of a similar background. Black dating online site is a singles online community dedicated to helping black men and women meet other singles in a comfortable online environment. Black dating online personals community is a source for creating relationships ranging from companionship to friendship, romance to marriage.
The Traditional Jewish Dating
In as much as they want to preserve the moral and ethical values of each Jew, Jewish tradition demand that dating between men and women in the concept of premarital relationship should stop at the point of physical contact. Jewish law clearly states that when a young woman begins menstruating, she entices herself in the status of "nidah" or the point when no men can show any physical contact, until the day of her marriage.
Want To Be A Success In Dating? Use Your 5 Senses
How often do girls on the street smile to you, pay to you attention? Sometimes? Never? You wonder what you should do to make it happen?It is very easy, just use your senses.First of all, what attracts attention of a girl? You think appearance? You are wrong! There are 5 main aspects that girls value most of all.
Letting Dating Sites End Your Search For Love
Love makes the world go round, they say Thus, it is important for a person to love and be loved back in order for him or her to become complete
Is Online Dating For You After A Divorce?
Until Death Do You Part?That certainly was a lie. Your spouse got the house, a younger you, and you got the children.
Understanding and Recognizing an Ectopic Pregnancy Symptom
An ectopic pregnancy is an intensely dangerous subject which is extremely important to your baby. That is why is is extreamly important to understand and recognize the symptoms of what an ectopic pregnancy. Especially if a planned pregnancy is initiated.
New Dating Course Gives Valentines Day Dating Tips
The new course, launched in January 2007, "How To Pick Up Sexy Chicks" has taken the Internet by storm. Men around the world have purchased the course in volumes to see what the latest phenomena is about.
Close Kept Secrets to Weight Loss Lesson #10
WOW!! Here we are on lesson #10. Hasn't it been an amazing journey over these two months? What you are discovering is all the secrets to your weight loss are within you.
Weight Loss Camps For Women
Do you know that losing weight can be fun? Fat loss activities need not be restricted to just boring diets and exercises regime, you can even take a vacation to weight loss camps and take part in their activities. If you are overweight and already have a budget for a vacation, then why not check into a weight loss camp, have a vacation there and lose some fat at the same time.